Find a Wedding Photographer You Click with and Actually Have Fun With ~ Not Just Pose For.
Let’s get one thing clear, babe: your wedding day isn’t a photoshoot.
It’s the most fun, emotional, champagne-fizzing, once-in-a-lifetime day of your life. And the last thing you want? Feeling like you’re stiff Barbie + Ken dolls!
If you’re a fun-loving couple who lights up over real moments, wants photos that feel like you, and isn’t keen on forced poses ~ this one’s for you.
So how do you find a wedding photographer you click with who captures your magic and makes you feel amazing in front of the camera? Let’s jump in👇🏼
💖 Step 1: Know Your Vibe
Before you start scrolling through a million portfolios, stop and ask yourselves:
What do we want our wedding day to feel like?
Are you dreaming of whimsical romance, moody and dramatic, relaxed and candid, or editorial-glam with a fashion twist?
Once you’ve nailed the vibe, the rest gets easier. Your photographer should be fluent in your style without you needing to say, “Can you make this look more… us?”
✨ Pro tip: Screenshot images that make your heart race and notice what they all have in common. Spoiler alert: it’s usually more about emotion than editing.
📸 Step 2: Find a wedding photographer you click with ~ Someone Who Feels Like a Friend
Yes, talent matters. But you’re not just hiring someone to click a button. You’re choosing a VIP who’ll be by your side all day ~ sometimes closer than your bridal party!
Ask yourself:
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Do we feel comfortable with them?
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Could we share a laugh (or a cry) with them?
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Do their past couples rave about feeling relaxed and cared for?
✨ Vibe check 101: Read their testimonials. Stalk their Insta Stories. See if you’d actually enjoy hanging with them. Energy doesn’t lie, babe.
🐚 Step 3: Skip the Stiff Poses (Please)
Unless you want your wedding photos to scream “high school formal” ~ let’s ditch the stiff, look-at-the-camera shots.
The right photographer will use subtle prompts, not awkward instructions. They’ll guide you gently, help you move naturally, and capture the love between you, not just a pose of you.
✨ For my camera-shy couples: Find someone who knows how to work with real people, not just pro models. They’ll help you ease into it, laugh, snuggle, and forget the camera’s even there.
🎉 Step 4: Try Before You Wed (Optional ~ But So Worth It)
If you’re feeling unsure, book an engagement shoot or pre-wedding session. It’s a fab way to:
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Get comfy in front of the lens
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Build trust with your photographer
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Get some gorgeous pics for your invites or wedding website
✨ Bonus: You’ll know if it’s love at first click ~ or if it’s not the right fit (better to find out before the big day, right?).
🥂 Step 5: Trust Your Heart + Lock It In
At the end of the day, your heart knows. You’ll click with someone and feel it. You’ll feel seen, heard, and they’ll be as hyped up as you are.
Your photos will be a reflection of how you felt ~ not just how you looked. So choose someone who captures that real, messy, magical in-between stuff. That’s where the goodness is.
💌 Final Word from Your Wedding Fairy Godmother ✨
Gorgeous, you deserve to find a photographer with who gets your love story, laughs at your inside jokes, and helps you feel like your most radiant, relaxed self.
Not someone who turns your wedding into a photoshoot.
So find a wedding photographer you click with ~ and trust they’ll capture every moment with heart, humour, and a whole lot of love.
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Arohanui
Kimberly x
Your Wedding Fairy Godmother
